One thing I love about her is how non-judgmentally she professes to think {though she's actually one of the most judgmental people I've ever met, hahaa}. It makes her so angry when people say things in a judgmental way. She is all about letting people live their lives and being chill about it. Living with her has helped me grasp hold of that concept more tightly. People are going to make mistakes and break rules and be stupid but it is okay. They can do what they want because it is literally none of our business. Unless it is your child, spouse, or close, close friend, you have no place to pass your judgment and make calls on their behalf. I feel like a lot more often nowadays I find myself saying, "just chill. let them do what they want." Because that's how I've been looking at things.
I had an experience a couple weeks back that seems unrelated but helped me realize some great truths. I was in the temple doing baptisms. It's always nice to be in the temple, and I just sat peacefully watching Alex baptize a friend of ours. My mind wandered to the name he had just spoken that she was standing as proxy for. This name, "Rosalia somethin-or-other", struck me and I thought about the woman on the other side that was receiving this ordinance. I was genuinely happy for this spirit and thought about how happy Christ was in her decision to, hopefully, accept this baptism. My heart was so full for this lady that had passed away centuries ago and I didn't know. Then I found myself looking through Christ's eyes at the rest of the people in the room. I saw them for who they truly were: extraordinary sons and daughters of a loving Heavenly Father. They weren't just strangers with odd hair styles or weird quirks or sins in their pasts or presents, they were the radiant beings that Christ knows them to be. As if I was putting on a pair of spiritual glasses, I saw the great goodness and light inside the few people in the room. It only lasted a moment but I was filled completely with charity; the pure love of Christ.
That viewpoint, looking at people as the divine creatures they are, can help us to not judge. If we all took a step back, hopped down from our self-appointed pedestals, and viewed people on an equal and divine plane, judgment wouldn't happen. If we could only have Christ's vision to see people as they truly are, we wouldn't be so quick to put them down or view their actions as a single culmination of who they are and how worthy they are. It's so easy to say this, of course. It is terribly simple to look in retrospect and say "we all need to chill" but most things in life are easier said than done. I'm going to try to live with more love for people. Try to find the pieces of goodness and beauty within them. I hate being judged and I don't want to do the same.
